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I am so grateful to have to Tanya as my coach. When I started my consulting business I had no idea that the hardest thing wouldn’t be sales but learning how to let go of perfection so that every project didn’t take me two or three times as along as I had estimated. With Tanya’s support, I’ve learned how to identify when I’m going into “analysis paralysis” and perfection and avoid, or at least stop doing them faster, using the tools Tanya has taught me to ground myself. If you struggle with perfection and overwhelm, I highly recommend working with Tanya for a more successful business and life!

When I began working with Tanya, I was functioning under the influence of the 3 P’s—Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, and the Super-Human role. My body was tense and anxious, and I was experiencing ongoing ocular migraines. Perfectionism had developed early as a survival strategy, but by the time I met Tanya, it was contributing to significant mental and physical strain. I also came to understand People-Pleasing as another childhood coping skill. Although it once helped me navigate abusive relationships, it had become counterproductive—disrupting my connections with others and disconnecting me from myself. The cumulative impact of these patterns was evident in my overall health.

Through my work with Tanya, I am now more aware of how deeply the 3P’s were embedded in my daily functioning. As an adult, I’m learning that these strategies are no longer necessary. Tanya’s guidance and consistent practice of her 3P tools have supported me to have healthier thinking and behavior. Reducing their influence is actively supporting my own well-being.

My 3P’s work with Tanya has been life-changing. I began working with Tanya when I was a full-time floor nurse at a hospital. The schedule was unreasonable, the load was way too heavy and I was scared and exhausted. I had no time for my partner or any other activities. I would have said that my Super Human was the one that I needed to work with but really it was also very much connected to my Perfectionist and my People Pleaser. I was so afraid of making a mistake and harming a patient. That didn’t happen but I was hypervigilant to the extreme. My nervous system was in overdrive. Through working with Tanya, I uncovered a core belief that says I will make a mistake, be punished and then left alone. It can be quite a big trigger for me. By working with Tanya’s tools around perfection, I have been able to clear deep emotions and feelings around this belief and make progress towards knowing that I’m good enough and balancing my Perfectionist. This in turn helped me to balance my Super Human, achieving a better balance at work and ultimately finding my dream job of training and coaching nurses. Working with all of the 3P’s – people pleasing, perfection and pretending to be Super Human – has had a profound effect on my ability to look at old patterns and shift beliefs that are no longer serving me. I am now more easily setting boundaries with family and friends and I am much more comfortable speaking my truth. I have a better balance in my life as I am more aware of overdoing (Super Human) and I spend less time and energy people pleasing. Most of the time, good enough is enough and my Perfectionist is more in balance. The tools are valuable in themselves but the true gift is Tanya’s ability to see through to the core of an issue without judgment and with kindness and support. Thank you, Tanya!